Small Talk: Learning from My Children about What Matters Most (Review)

We have always raised our kids to question the world around them, to dig deep, to ask why and to search out the answers. So it shouldn’t surprise me when a day is filled with question after question, but it does exhaust me. I’ve been wanting to go back to school to work towards a PhD but I wonder if my children aren’t in fact more of a challenge. I wonder sometimes if motherhood, when we get to the end of it, should be awarded with an honorary doctorate. 

Questions my kids ask

Yesterday, after a week of coughs and sniffles, we went to the doctor. Both girls were given a strep test to which they needed the tech to share every step of the process, every ingredient and why. He patiently answered their questions and I marked it down in the books as our science lesson for the day.

Then there are those moments when even they have been filled to the brim with knowledge. Wednesday night I remarked that I am often called Faith. My daughter could not understand why. Pastor saw an opportunity and began to explain the differences and similarities between faith and hope. Faith he explained is about looking backward, resting in the belief that allows for our futuristic hope. And in her biggest 18 year old snarky voice my 8 year old exclaimed, “You do know I’m only in third grade and most of those words you just said I don’t even know.” My daughter, who found Christ through the infinity of the cosmos, who questions everything and only believes when it is logical, had been filled to capacity. She was content knowing that the meaning of the word hope, in her world, is simply mom.

Small Talk

In Amy Julia Becker’s book Small Talk she takes these moments with her children to search out her own understanding of faith, what she believes, and what she hopes for. This book is a treasure. It is filled with raw, beautiful honesty. Her children stretch her in ways only children can and it is a joy to be allowed to listen. I found a sister in the pages of these books. Someone who struggles with some of the same theological questions and yet is able to simply and beautifully explain the complexity of God’s love to her toddlers.

I won this book at a giveaway at Tidbits of Experience but you can get your hands on your own copy here: Small Talk: Learning from My Children about What Matters Most Today (1/9) is the last day to enter to win a $10 certificate from Family Christian.

Small Talk: Learning from My Children about What Matters Most

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3 thoughts on “Small Talk: Learning from My Children about What Matters Most (Review)

  1. This is a very well written book review. Thank you for sharing your personal story with us too in relation to the book. Small Talk is a really good book for sure.
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